Comments for Freitag http://pinoysphere.com Free to blog on Fridays Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:11:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 Comment on The good, the bad, and the forgettable by george http://pinoysphere.com/2008/11/the-good-the-bad-and-the-forgettable/#comment-139 george Wed, 19 Nov 2008 07:08:53 +0000 http://pinoysphere.com/?p=54#comment-139 I remember my math who teacher who made me hate math. The teachers that I cannot forget are the one who made me hate math and the one who tells beautiful stories in the class. I remember my math who teacher who made me hate math. The teachers that I cannot forget are the one who made me hate math and the one who tells beautiful stories in the class.

]]> Comment on When being too nice is no longer a virtue by Hazel Jones http://pinoysphere.com/2008/11/when-being-too-nice-is-no-longer-a-virtue/#comment-138 Hazel Jones Wed, 19 Nov 2008 05:25:33 +0000 http://pinoysphere.com/?p=55#comment-138 Hi, I'm Hazel Jones and I work in a company interested in blog advertising. I found your blog engaging and I'm contacting you to ask if you are interested in blog post sponsorship. If you are interested, kindly mail back at teamcasino[at]dcemail[dot]com, indicating your blog for reference, and I'll send you back pricing details, guidelines and processes. Looking forward to doing business with you. Sincerely, Hazel Jones Hi,

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]]> Comment on When being too nice is no longer a virtue by Jayred http://pinoysphere.com/2008/11/when-being-too-nice-is-no-longer-a-virtue/#comment-131 Jayred Sat, 15 Nov 2008 10:27:27 +0000 http://pinoysphere.com/?p=55#comment-131 Sining, I agree: the "tagasalo" (savior) will eventually feel the effects of not setting clear boundaries with his/her family in due time. I remember the former caregiver of my Dad -- she has an unemployed husband ("batugan") and nine grown-up children who are really lazy and "inutil." She does all the work for them and they, in turn, have become too dependent on her (a classic case of having the Messiah complex). When I was in Manila last year for a family visit, she would be absent at work (our home) for weeks on end just because she had to attend to the needs of everyone in her family (her kids would even drop by our house to ask money from her). Eventually, she lost her job because my Mom would not hire her anymore because she had become totally unavailable and, therefore, unreliable. Sining, I agree: the “tagasalo” (savior) will eventually feel the effects of not setting clear boundaries with his/her family in due time. I remember the former caregiver of my Dad — she has an unemployed husband (”batugan”) and nine grown-up children who are really lazy and “inutil.” She does all the work for them and they, in turn, have become too dependent on her (a classic case of having the Messiah complex). When I was in Manila last year for a family visit, she would be absent at work (our home) for weeks on end just because she had to attend to the needs of everyone in her family (her kids would even drop by our house to ask money from her). Eventually, she lost her job because my Mom would not hire her anymore because she had become totally unavailable and, therefore, unreliable.

]]> Comment on When being too nice is no longer a virtue by Sining :) http://pinoysphere.com/2008/11/when-being-too-nice-is-no-longer-a-virtue/#comment-130 Sining :) Sat, 15 Nov 2008 07:45:54 +0000 http://pinoysphere.com/?p=55#comment-130 This reminds me of Filipino clinical psychologist Dr. Honey Carandang's concept of the "Tagasalo" (roughly translated, savior) personality in families. This is the person who tries to tackle all the problems and stresses in the family just to hold it all together. In a sense, the person is already being "too nice" for the family which makes it almost acceptable and an unselfish thing to do in our cuotures. However, the lack of healthy boundaries for the "tagasalo" will eventually bog him or her down and s/he won't be able to save the family anymore. This reminds me of Filipino clinical psychologist Dr. Honey Carandang’s concept of the “Tagasalo” (roughly translated, savior) personality in families. This is the person who tries to tackle all the problems and stresses in the family just to hold it all together. In a sense, the person is already being “too nice” for the family which makes it almost acceptable and an unselfish thing to do in our cuotures. However, the lack of healthy boundaries for the “tagasalo” will eventually bog him or her down and s/he won’t be able to save the family anymore.

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